If you want better conversations with your child, then resolve to do one simple thing – ask more questions. The comments that pop out of their mouths can create a flood of thoughts and feelings for parents, even more so if you’re reminded of something you experienced as a child. To prevent this from causing problems, be slow to assume that you have the full picture. Try to find out how big this issue is for them by asking questions like “How did you feel when that happened?”, or “Do you have any ideas about what to do next?”. Our kids can surprise us with resilience that we never knew they had – because we’re not in the habit of taking the time to ask.