Boundaries are how we make it clear to our children what is OK and what isn’t. Figuring out, and agreeing, where we stand as parents is hard enough, then begins the ongoing effort of holding those boundaries secure and consistent.
Make this job a lot easier for yourself by getting comfortable with this concept: Love and Limits are closely intertwined. If you feel as though it’s not possible to be a loving parent as you set a limit, or that you have to be gruff and unfriendly to get this job done, then you might find you resist doing it full-stop. Remind yourself often that good parents are confident and loving as they hold the line, and that children can cope with hearing what they don’t want to hear.